There are people who for whatever reason feel that they are born in the wrong body. At some point in their life they might go through operations to change their genitals from male to female or vice versa. They might use hormones to alter the way that their body behaves, they might grow breasts or body hair depending on the sex they want to change from. There are people who are born with both sets of male and female genitals and a bone structure somewhere between what is generally considered to be normal for both sexes. This over my lifetime at least has generally come to be accepted by the majority of society. This I think is a good thing.
There appears to be a movement developing to give Gender identity more importance than the Sex identity. The people in the movement want to create changes in society to “allow them freedom of expression” in terms of their gender.
This manifests itself in the desire to have third toilets in all public establishments or allow people who identify as a sex other than what they physically are to use the toilet that they wish to use. Target managed to become embroiled in this recently. The people involved in this movement appear to be generally under 25, have the opinion that the world is against their freedom of expression and that everyone else needs to shut-up and they should come first. Things that people within this movement believe include:
“My gender depends how I feel on the day”
“We are trying to find ways to live outside the Binary (male/female)”
“My pronouns” use of we/they singular pronouns as a way to avoid he or she in speech – with explicit desire to own the pronouns personally.
“Doctors looking at a babies genitalia when they are born and deciding what sex/gender they are from that point is an act of violence”
We are “living outside the norm and having different experiences than the norm”
Saying anything contrary to what we feel is to “miss-gender”
Apparently one person has committed suicide because they were being miss-gendered by the very people trying to help them while in psychiatric care. Obviously this is very sad. Anyone who attempts to get help should obviously be treated with every respect.
I remember being in class one day and being told that we should use the word Gender rather than Sex when designing questionnaires and discussing the responses in our essays. I asked what the difference was between Sex and Gender and the response I was given was that it was difficult to explain but gender is to do with your identity and how you identify yourself in the world and sex is to do with the sexual organs that you were born with. A reasonable response from someone who at the time was the Head of Education and is now the Dean of Education in the school. So your Sex and your Gender are two different things. One is the way the doctor identifies you at birth for the most part Male or Female or where there is physical differences from the norm the doctor makes an educated guess based on what they see. This has resulted in people growing up and feeling that they are in the wrong body and requiring assistance often to have physical alterations carried out to make them feel more able to go about their lives. The secondary aspect of this is that it conversely helps society accept them too.
This movement to use (Non-Binary) Gender as the primary way to identify people over the (Binary) Sex method of identification seems to be giving people license to live in a fantasy world where they get to tell people that they are neither male nor female. The videos I have seen on YouTube show people who appear to be attempting to mix how they feel with their Sex. In many examples they are so young that their bodies haven’t fully developed yet. There are several people on you tube who are claiming to be Non-Binary yet clearly show the tell-tale signs of being either a man or a woman.
I think it is very sad that people feel the need to politicize their “Gender” and entangle it with their actual “Sex” to the point of denying their sex openly to the world, in most cases even though the world watching can easily figure out what sex they are.
The thing that bothers me the most about this is that these people are crying out for attention. It’s appalling and offensive to those who have a genuine physical problem that needs addressing and to those who feel that they have been born in the wrong body who may wish to go through sex re-assignment surgery.
(As an aside I do not feel the need for gender lables in my life and I find people who need them strange. However, I have taken every step to write this article in a manner that gets my message across clearly, explores the differences between sex and gender succinctly and in no way attempts to be offensive. The quotes are from TV interviews and YouTube videos spoken by people active in the movement.)